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philosophy  continued......

Emotional Control

     We teach people how to be in control of any kind of emotional or physical situation and to not let the situation control them.  This is one of the biggest challenges people have. Many times we say or do things we normally wouldn't do if we were in a rational state of mind. For example, you may be talking with someone and maybe it was not their intention, but they antagonize or challenge you by the words they said and how they said it. You automatically "strike back" in your normal reaction and the conversation turns into an argument to see who will "win" the discussion. This argument can escalate into a physical confrontation and you are put in a position to defend yourself.  The person keeps going and you add wood to the fire. The conversation turns into an argument to see who will "win" the discussion.

     There are two reasons why we talk to another person…for pleasure or to express a point of view. When we work with our students we instill high self-esteem. Consequently, when they face a difficult situation that may test their emotional control, they will know how to deal with it. This is what I call using "mental jiu-jitsu".  "Read" the person, notice their body language, look them in the eyes, and talk with the person, but don't antagonize or offend them.

     There are hundreds of books out there on how to make friends and influence people. Every time you talk to someone, you have an opportunity to use "mental jiu-jitsu". Be patient. Let the person speak. My instructors practice my gentle philosophy when they teach. Instead of saying, "NO, that is wrong, not like THAT!" They say, "This will work, but it's not perfect. Let me show you the best way to go directly to the point. Remember, wrong technique will work, but we go for the perfection here on the mats."

     By being polite, you don't offend or put someone down. Everybody has their instinctive reaction, and can become defensive or offensive.

     In our system, you learn the techniques to quickly and effectively put down your opponent in a gentle way. You only "break" him if you choose to.

     By practicing my philosophy in all your endeavors, you not only control any situation, but also avoid all kinds of unwanted and unpleasant circumstances.  back  next  top